“The problem is, real people buy sex, and real people sell sex. The numbers on how many people are involved in the sex trade are notoriously hard to gather, or trust, but there is one constant: buyers are not buying people. When politicians, social service providers and celebrity philanthropists insist that sex workers are selling ourselves, they engage in the same kind of dehumanisation that they claim johns do to us. When they claim that men can buy us, they rob us of our power and our choices.”—
I really wonder how long it will take for it to sink in that sex workers sell a service, not their bodies. I’m a theatre major and have also been paid for some modeling I do. Both of these involve me using my body and skills to provide a service that I am paid for (at least I’m hoping it’s a paid job). Still, no one is claiming that anyone paying the ticket price for a show owns my body. Neither do any of the photographers I’ve worked with. The same thing applies to sex workers.
I think this is an indication of a larger problematic idea that having sex with another person gives you a right to their body, or somehow removes full ownership from them, even in situations where the sex is not part of a business deal. It’s a disturbing way to view sex, and a disturbing way to view relationships.